MODERN FAIRY TALES FOR THE MODERN WOMAN

A PRINCE CHARMING IN A KILT

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I thought today we’d finish my Fantasy Week with a look (through my eyes) at the modern, adult woman’s Fantasy World.

I recently saw INTO THE WOODS—with Depp doing his usual insanity as the BIG BAD WOLF…But I was most impressed with the part where Cinderella finds her prince hitting on someone else and when she confronts him he tells her he is Prince Charming–with the emphasis on the charm–not on fidelity. You got it dear–we have all known men like that–if you haven’t my dear then I don’t know if you’re lucky or just not living in reality. Men like that are more common than dirt and we struggle through life to find someone who will honestly commit or send stuff on Facebook about how great it is to be able to be alone…yeah right.

Our current fantasy selections enforce this. There are Vampires. In Feehan’s Dark series you have a group Carpathian men (few children are born to the ethnic group and most are male) who live hundreds of year–they are a vampire type race, who sleep in the earth to heal, drinks blood–but don’t kill their suppliers, are very powerful and loose their emotions over the hundreds of years they exist. Many turn to true vampires, who can feel emotions when they drink their victims blood till they die….the rest fight this abomination and hope to find their life mate with whom they bond forever (whom returns their emotions and senses) and the death of one often resulting in the death of the grieving other. She also has engineered super warriors and their genetic mates, again being made for each other and never straying. A dream that all of us might aspire to.

Others that includes Vampires and permanent mates includes Ward’s Black Dagger Brotherhood (what I describe as Vampires on steroids) and a kind of Vampire one (Kenyon’s Dark Hunters) which involves a thousand year old god who looks to be 20 something and the lost souls he presides over, and the women who gain their souls back. In this day and age there seems to be a fair share of tales of powerful, often ruthless men who must commit to us and to whom we are committed with more than a promise or a license. Not only are the women in these stories secure in their relationships but they also are totally protected by these supernatural beings.

and of course there’s the sex–a lot of us don’t get it or don’t get it really hot or very often or good, the possibilities are endless: says Laurell K. Hamilton, bestselling author of the “Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter” series. “It’s fang, penetration, ecstasy,” she says. “Our readers know that vampire sex is somehow going to be the very best sex a woman has ever had.”

For those of us not into supernatural beings (however there is time travel) to love, there ain’t no way you’re gonna find a man like this with the TV Cable hit Outlander a series of books by Diana Gabaldon, that’s been around for 20 some years but which just recently hit the small screen. While the hero Jamie isn’t locked with his bride Claire by any supernatural laws he is however truly in love with her and very much a one woman man–almost as good and as truly fictional in the current world as vampires.

And of course there’s the Romance Movie–they do so many more and for the most part better than most TV show (Unless you watch the Hallmark Channel around the Holidays—don’t get me started on LifeTime movies, unless you like weirdness, murder and betrayal) My favorite in his batch is Notting Hill with Hugh Grant being constantly betrayed by Julia Roberts…a reversal on how many of us see men in our relationships.

Psychologists tell us that this romanticized love can be bad for us and make for poor health and relationship decisions (British psychologist Susan Quilliam) and give us unrealistic expectations for our relationships. In fact Ms. Quilliam is on several of these net sites bemoaning this issue.

For the most part I see the point but disagree in that I feel that the few women she sees as patients doesn’t represent the rest of out there. Those of us that need romance and from time to time haven’t been able to find it. We know the characters aren’t real and that we wouldn’t know what to do with a vampire if he wandered or flew in bat form into our bed rooms but don’t really want to fantasize about the average man out there (one of these days I’ll tell you about my online dating service adventures). We aren’t fixated, (I’d worry if your fantasy was an over age, overweight street cleaner) but as long as we’re dreaming we might as well do so with the exotic and different.