COME ON BABY LIGHT MY FIRE, TRY TO SET THE NIGHT ON FIRE J. Morrison

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LET’S SEE how about Sex, Drugs and Rock & Roll this week….no not more 60’s BS—well maybe a bit, but a look at the mores and traditions and what it meant to the most of us.

You know that it would be untrue
You know that I would be a liar
If I was to say to you
Girl, we couldn’t get much higher Doors

Did a sex orientated item yesterday–a Baby Shower

I mean without sex you wouldn’t need Baby Showers right?

Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as far as meaningless experiences go its pretty damn good.

Woody Allen

Sex has been around for a long time—love not so much so.

Books and of course the internet is full of definitions and the like about ROMANTIC LOVE:

Romantic love is when the chemicals in your brain kick in and you feel an emotional high, exhilaration, passion, and elation when you and your lover are together. The old saying about love being blind truly describes romantic love. Many who are in the midst of romantic love want to be with their lover all the time and can overlook faults, conflict, and abuse. http://marriage.about.com/od/loveandromance/g/romanticlove.htm

So note the passion part—yeah sex always rears it ugly head somewhere or other.

In actual fact though romance appears to be originate with out sex: “The conception of romantic love was popularized inWestern culture by the concept of courtly love. Chevaliers, or knights in the Middle Ages, engaged in what were usually non-physical and non-marital relationships with women of nobility of whom they served. These relations were highly elaborate and ritualized in a complexity that was steeped in a framework of tradition, which stemmed from theories of etiquette derived out of chivalry as a moral code of conduct.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_(love)

Personally I don’t believe it—I have met few men or women that noble—the old court is the one that introduced Lancelot into the Arthur tales and look how chaste he was despite his claims to perfection. Or maybe that was a cautionary tale?

The time to hesitate is through
No time to wallow in the mire
Try now we can only lose
And our love become a funeral pyre Op Ed

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Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.

Marilyn Monroe

Then there’s the sex symbol…..I mean it’s been going on for years with phallic shaped stones of all sizes gracing the plant thousand of years before there were movies or mass production.

And you can’t blame the Media or movies for it all. For instance in BEDLAM London and It’s Mad by Catharine Arnold: (in Hamlet’s Shakespeare) Ophelia is an early manifestation of an enduring female stereotype…the beautiful nymphomaniac, her inhibitions removed by madness…later speeches…full of sexual innuendos, “By Cock, thy are to blame,” …..quoting…songs of spurned loved and abandoned wenches…even her name ‘O-feely-her’ is crudely suggestive. ”

Of course most recently it has become more overt—sometimes I miss the less obvious, that requires a little thought on my part…for some reason grabbing ones crotched repeatedly during a sexually suggestive lyric tells me either you’re unsure if your performance is getting its point across or that you think we’re all repressed, under- sexed, stupid or a combination of the same.

The time to hesitate is through
No time to wallow in the mire
Try now we can only lose
And our love become a funeral pyre Again

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Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it’s usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretenses so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies.

Jim Morrison

While Pilgrims made women wear a Scarlett letter to denote bad sexual behavior, Jesus defended Mary Magdalene. Sex seems to have constantly confused us—is it that we’re jealous of those who enjoy it more or maybe just get it at all. With the 60’s (just brief reference here) came the freedom of advance birth control, but that eventually brought us HIV and AIDs plus new and better STD’s to cope with—as in all things moderation and just plain common sense seems to be the best thing.

Virginity has been included in superstitions: In Wales for instance the constant hooting of an owl around a village denoted that some girl would loose her virginity (I could see some motivated young man using that one to his advantage) and white roses were planted on the graves of virgins. (Encyclopedia of Superstitions Ed. Christina Hole–I am not saying a word on that one)

Of course this was I am sure an effort to avoid un-provided for children. And to assure men (once they figured out why the woman became impregnated many eons ago) that they had some control on the fatherhood of the women they married. Now remember after we lost our creative almost goddess status for our creative abilities, we went from a matriarchal society to a male (Look what I did) dominated one in which our behavior became controlled and as the years passed and religion developed (also ran by mostly men) this became not only a law, but a moral imperative.

I am not saying that taking responsibility for our sexual lives isn’t important–obviously excess in anything is a potential problem—being responsible is something that most of us learn with maturity and that includes all aspects of our life including our sexual unions, sex partners, choices of what sex those partners are and so on. Life is full of responsibilities and possible excess, with sex being right there on top (or on the bottom) for a lot of us.

Come on baby, light my fire
Come on baby, light my fire
Try to set the night on fire
Try to set the night on fire
Try to set the night on fire
Try to set the night on fire

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Remember, sex is like a Chinese dinner. It ain’t over ’til you both get your cookie.

Alec Baldwin

And here my Outlander Fans is you cookie–a nice ginger one—oh and check out this site: http://www.indiewire.com/article/does-outlander-need-its-sex-scenes-to-survive-even-if-its-the-best-sex-on-tv-20150505 on whether Outlander would Survive without all the graphic scenes. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

As yet too hungry and too clumsy for tenderness, still he made love with a sort of unflagging joy that made me think that male virginity might be a highly underrated commodity.

—Jamie & Claire in Outlander, Chapter 14

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"Even better," his voice was a hot murmur in my ear, "when I come to ya fierce and wanting, and ye whimper under me, and struggle as though you wanted to get away, and I know it's only that you're struggling to come closer, and I'm fighting the same fight."

—Jamie in Outlander, Chapter 41