Hello-lucky you I’m back…..two days in a row…wow going for a new record.
Today are pictures from the Sherlock Holmes Pub and the Museum by the same name (except w/o the Pub part) in London still.
Today we’re doing bad families….and of course first the ultimate escapism—going thru stone to century old Scotland—and how you survive till it’s back.
All kids are trouble, Edith. And I don’t wanna spend my reclining years trying to raise another one. Archie Bunker
OK more Droughtlaner plans:
- Learn to Cook Scottish style—but don’t use this cookbook:
Scots Mock ‘Outlander’ Cookbook for Its American Recipes: Haggis Tacos Anyone?
2. work for a charity like Cait
‘Outlander’ Season 3 News: Caitriona Balfe’s Proud Patronage Of World Child Cancer [Photos]
3. Read everything that comes out about Ron–start here:
I’d say that the Meathead probably got magnesia and forgot where his mouth was Archie Bunker.
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Then there’s the bad–If we didn’t have an occasional bad how would we known when things are good—in those rare incidences–RIght? Also bad is not always bad for all of us. Some people like damp, darkish weather–otherwise most of the UK would be empty by now.
But when does dysfunctional go from normal family interaction…to the bad. One would think that to a point bad might well be in the eye of the beholder—like beauty but not as good lookin’.
so: Dysfuntional is:
not operating normally or properly
or
deviating from the norms of social behavior in a way regarded as bad
So like I said “regarded is kinda like eye of the beholder isn’t it?
Morticia: Children, what are you doing?
Wednesday: I’m going to electrocute him.
Morticia: But we’re late for the charity auction.
Wednesday: But, Mother…
Morticia: I said no.
Pugsley: Pleeaaaase?
Morticia: Oh, all right.
Bad to me can go from the weirdness of the Osbournes—though the money would have made it a lot more bareable don’t you think….but I think first of all that parents should act at least vaguely like an adult….that without guidelines families become a shamble of beings that never do get back to what one would consider normal—by any stretch of the imagination.
But on the other hand those really strict dictating parents that run the family like army camps are no better. These parents may not be physically abusive but I think they verge on the mental edge with occasional dives over into full out pain for the child. I think that these type of parents generally have children that are pushed either into open rebellion which can affect their behavior in school and other training which can then tint their lies forever by making it harder for them to attain a job of anything except lower pay levels. Or in the worst case scenario resulting in such rebellion that the child ends up in the legal system, usually in their teens and then being a chronic offender.
While having parents that need be raised–those that are themselves tended to procrastination or other less than good behavior is another way result in a bad family.
When most people think of parenting, they picture changing diapers, messy feeding times, and chasing a screaming child through a crowded grocery store. But parenting goes far beyond the requirements for meeting the basic survival needs of the child, and parents have a significant influence on how children turn out, including their personality, emotional development, and behavioral habits, as well as a host of other factors.
Vanderbilt/Developmental Psychology
Bad can be ugly….but mostly it’s inadequate to meet the needs of those children growing up in it. I think good families have a bit of bad while bad ones have only a bit of good.
I think of the Archie Bunker’s character-hardly a father of the year–but at least Archie pretty much hated everyone (with some little grudging regard for his wife and daughter which he took as love)–we see him for what he is a parody of the bigot, stupid, overbearing, loud and vulgar….but while he is a bigger than life (and smaller of heart) than the average man they are out there and they make an impression on their children and the lucky children just marry to escape the control of the influence (Gloria’s husband Mike, whom he refers to as Meathead, was a long haired, liberal anti-war and not making enough money to support her so they’re still with her dad—an escape effort which obviously didn’t work, but did torture her father with her unacceptable choice right in his face). And so we have another form of a bad and in Archie’s case it was funny–in a real father it most definitely leans toward bad.
An uninvolved parenting style is characterized by few demands, low responsiveness, and little communication. While these parents fulfill the child’s basic needs, they are generally detached from their child’s life. In extreme cases, these parents may even reject or neglect the needs of their children.
https://www.verywell.com/what-is-authoritarian-parenting-2794955Of
Of course this is another example of family and probably should have been saved for ugly….but however being a Mafia enforcer doesn’t rule you out in being a good or a bad parent.
However occupations that keep one (or both parents–thank heavens for babysitters and grandparents) can also lead to the category of bad family with children not receiving the contacts they need with parents to develop all matters of interactions that help develop good, or bad or beyond children.
The CDC gives the following parenting
tips for children 0-1 years:
Positive Parenting Tips
Following are some things you, as a parent, can do to help your baby during this time:
- Talk to your baby. She will find your voice calming.
- Answer when your baby makes sounds by repeating the sounds and adding words. This will help him learn to use language.
- Read to your baby. This will help her develop and understand language and sounds.
- Sing to your baby and play music. This will help your baby develop a love for music and will help his brain development.
- Praise your baby and give her lots of loving attention.
- Spend time cuddling and holding your baby. This will help him feel cared for and secure.
- Play with your baby when she’s alert and relaxed. Watch your baby closely for signs of being tired or fussy so that she can take a break from playing.
- Distract your baby with toys and move him to safe areas when he starts moving and touching things that he shouldn’t touch.
- Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Parenting can be hard work! It is easier to enjoy your new baby and be a positive, loving parent when you are feeling good yourself.
- http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/childdevelopment/positiveparenting/infants.html
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